Life Strategist.Organizationalist.Educator.Mentor.
Sometimes we just have to be quiet. Like literally, silent, calm, and still.
Being quiet requires our thoughts to be clear as well.
Things happen when you are quiet like:
questions being answered
being able to think clearly
mood changes
peace
humbleness
…and I say all of this from my own experience. I will share a short story about my most recent quiet time.
Continue reading “Quiet Mode”
The title itself may be triggering but its the truth!
I know we have all heard at some point in our lives the quote ” the truth may hurt but it can set you free”. I did not pay it any attention then but I do now. To know me is to know the healed version of me. On many occasions I have been complimented on my ability to remain calm, effectively express my feelings, or be the “bigger person”. I respond by saying it has not always been like this in a jokingly but serious tone. Generally, I like to start off by telling my personal experiences so that my readers understand that I in fact know what I am talking about. So lets get started!
Continue reading “Healing Is A Choice…”
Hey!! Yes, I know it has been a while but I am back! I needed some time to reflect and analyze ME!! It is not too often that a person will admit, yeah I am the problem or it is not always the other party. Sheesh!! That could be a hard pill to swallow but I managed to get it down.
Continue reading “Self Love is the BEST Love”
Hey! I know it has been a while and I am going to make an attempt to do better in writing these blogs!
BUT…. let us take a moment and talk about the word control.
/kənˈtrōl/ Control-the power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events
A lot of us suffer from this “need!” We feel as if we need to control:
environments
people
situations
and if we control those things we feel as if we can also control the outcome or the narrative of our lives.
For example, if we can control any of the things listed above we think we can control what happens during the course of them.
Continue reading “The “Need” to be in Control”
I know we have all heard the saying “ it takes two”. As I go through a list of things that requires two people I cannot help but make a connection between the saying “it takes two” with relationships.
IT TAKES TWO
Throughout this blog, you will find yourself saying this in your head more times than I am almost certain you would want to. Sorry but not sorry. I need you to get it!
Continue reading “It Takes TWO!!”
I am 33!
Thirty-three years of age! Whew!
It sounds so strange because it feels like yesterday I was just a teenager, going through the motions of life but here I am. For the past fours year, I had made it a tradition to celebrate my birthday in major ways. Every year I had decided to do something eventful and memorable. I do not celebrate many traditional holidays, so my birthday was my holiday to celebrate my life. Every year I had a hashtag and it started when I turned twenty-nine; it was #timetoshutitdown #thebirthdaygirl #is29. I know corny, right, but that was the year I first went ziplining, and every year after, I had a new hashtag and a new adventure that I wanted to conquer.
Continue reading “Thirty-Free (33)”
I definitely believe in God’s plan but I also believe in positioning and preparing for God’s plan. What we do in our present has an even greater effect on our future life.
Preparation is key!
Your success is tied into how you prep!
In my new book, I give you strategies to help you align your life’s journey to your promise (rainbow). I have strategically developed a formula to help you get to where you need to be.
Continue reading “Before The Rainbow: The Preparation Process”
Have you ever been in a situation where you find yourself asking the question, should I stay or leave? Some may even ask, what is the purpose of this relationship? What am I gaining, or in most cases losing?
In relationships, and when I say relationships, I am not just talking about a male and a female who have decided to intentionally date. I am also referring to two people who have decided to become friends, associates, or as some of you may call them, acquaintances. I am also making an indication to family. You know the ones that continually drain you.
Continue reading “It’s You or Them! Who are you choosing?”
REVAMP‼️‼️‼️
verb
/rēˈvamp/
give new and improved form, structure, or appearance to.
It’s time for you to take some time , revamp and then introduce the new and improved you to the world.
Continue reading “Revamping Yourself to Becoming a Better Leader”
Make good choices today so that you do not have to regret tomorrow!!
In my opinion, I believe it is better to understand this statement at a much earlier age, then as an adult. I know the saying goes, you live and you learn and I truly believe that. My only question in the back of my mind is, why do we not choose the right choice at that time. When we make the wrong choices we tend to live either with the consequences, live in the dark, or both. This can be prevented if we only choose right the first time. Once we come to the realization that our choices can have a great impact on our future, life, and goals we would then choose wisely.
Continue reading “Choices!!”
trag-e-dy ; an event causing great suffering, destruction, and distress
Have you ever experienced a life-changing tragedy?
Are you still experiencing the effects of the tragedy?
Life after a tragedy can be hard. You begin to have many thoughts about how you could have changed what has happened. You replay in your mind all the different outcomes had you’d been there, paid more attention, or simply had the conversation. Depression starts to settle, and then you find yourself drowning in your sorrow and what-ifs. Life as we know it feels as if it will never be the same.
Continue reading “Life After A Tragedy”
Often times we become angry and depressed when something dreadful happens in our lives.
For example:
death
loosing “friends”
unemployment
bad health diagnosis
betrayal
Just to name a few. As we try to process the reality of it all it becomes hard to work through daily life as normal as we possibly can because we are so trying to hide our true feelings behind it all. We start to ask questions, “why me” but have you ever paused and ask why not you? No matter the situation, have you ever thought God has allowed this to happen. Do not be mistaken, I am not referring to situations that we sometimes place ourselves in because of our own bad choices. I am implying the situations in which we do not understand how or why it is even happening without cause. The things we have no control over.
Continue reading “Accept What God Allows”
A collection of things lying around in an untidy mass is defined as (clutter).
If we really take the time to analyze ourselves we will come to the realization that this is symbolically what our lives looks like.
Our brains are crowded with ideas
Our daily life is disorganized
Our emotions are mixed
Our thoughts are clouded
….And we need to “tidy up”
It is difficult to function when things are a mess. Messiness can affect our relationships, thinking processes, and how well we navigate through our world.
Continue reading “Cleaning House”
Don’t measure your success using someone else’s ruler.”
Too many times, we base our success on the success of others. We tend to observe the accomplishments of the people around us, just to make a comparison, which then causes us to feel as if we have not done enough.
But what is enough? That is a personal question.
Can you answer the question without first considering the works of your friends, colleagues, or family?
Only you can determine what success looks like for YOU!
Continue reading “The Measure of Success”
As we approach the year of two thousand and twenty, lets not just claim prosperity and good health, lets put in the work.
Even so faith, if it has no works, is dead, being by itself
James 2:17 (NASB)
Lets become
Affirm! Affirmed!! Affirmation!!!
What do you desire in life? What do you hope to accomplish? Where do you see yourself?
In a few days, weeks, months, or years….
Continue reading “Affirmations!”
“Fear is the number one obstacle we will face in life”
Adam Smith
Often times we are afraid and we do not realize that the very thing we are afraid of is exactly what we need to face.
Don’t be afraid to let go
Continue reading “Don’t be afraid to let go!”
Are you the person that has to say the first thing that comes to mind?
Always wanting to prove your point, and or tell people off?
Or how about just speaking negative about a situation you wish to change? Or a person?
the tongue is a restless evil and full of poison with it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God.
James 3:8-9 (NASB)
Continue reading “Control Your Tongue”
Can you remember a time where you thought you were at your best?
For me it was, being around the ones I called family and friends, hanging out and being carefree.
I thought I was living my best life, but yet I had no vision or plan for my future. As time passed by I started losing those same family and friends. Not through death but through separation. I did not understand why they were starting to become disloyal and platonic towards me. All I knew was I “needed” them because they became my “best life”.
Continue reading “Alone. Uncomfortable. Still”